I need adult opinions about my mom please. please try to read as much as you can to understand i know its alot?

I wouldn't try and be sneaky and not get caught, that always turns out bad - trust me. It seems like your mom is just over protective, and that's a good thing! She's being a good mom and I'm sure you'll understand once you have children of your own. The fact that she had you young, she may just be trying to prove to herself, your grandma, and everyone around her that her child WILL be successful, won't get mixed in with boys at an early age, or look skanky in public. I do believe that she's going a little over the top for your age, but you are still very young. I know you just want to have fun and be treated a little more grown up NOW so perhaps you should sit your mom down and have a good girl-to-girl talk with her. Rather than you making a fit about it at a swimming pool or wherever else. I'm sure she'd appreciate it, and it'd be much better if you two could stay on good terms and even be closer friends. It's good having a young mom, and you being a girl! It's almost as if you two could be friends, I'm jealous.